ROUND OFF 2020 WITH RESILIENCY!

ROUND OFF 2020 WITH RESILIENCY!

What have you discovered about yourself in this calendar year? 

How have you handled the global pandemic and any other life stressors?

What are those things that you’ve handled well?

What are those things that you’ve not handled well?

It’s worth the time of reflection to look back and see how, if any, you can incorporate realistic changes into those areas of growth.

One of the key concepts in dealing with major life stressors is resiliency. What is it and how does one build it?

In simplest form, resiliency is your ability to bounce back. Resiliency isn’t necessarily the elimination of those life stressors, but the ability to manage them!

On a scale of 1 to 5, how have you managed the stressors of this year?

      Is there something you would change? Is there something you would 

      maintain?

What are your core beliefs about how life is “supposed” to go? 

       How has this year challenged your previously held beliefs?

       Where is the evidence that supports this belief?

       Have you discovered that in this crisis perhaps your previously held 

       belief(s) need to be challenged? To be able to allow stressors to challenge 

       an erroneous belief system is very much a silver lining.

How are you coping with your stressors?

You either cope in healthy ways or unhealthy ways.

How can you substitute a healthy behavior in place of a negative one?

Here are some crucial points regarding resiliency that you can incorporate now even if you’ve dealt with this year in a way that hasn’t been healthy or beneficial.

In a year when we have all discovered that much has been outside of our control, the first key point is to learn to incorporate daily resistance.

What is resistance?

Resistance is a strategic plan of action – hopefully daily – that IS within your control. This includes taking care of our physical bodies which, in turn, builds up a cumulative effect of immunity to those life stressors.

How can you incorporate daily self care of diet, sleep, and exercise?

Remember: this becomes a healthy reserve for your body to rely on during times of stress!

Second, how is your resiliency? This is your way of bouncing back. What healthy forms of coping are already in place, hopefully along with the reserves you have built for your body? 

A necessary component is changing your beliefs that perhaps looked different prior to this year. [e.g. “Life isn’t supposed to look like this.”  “If I live or do x, y, z, then this is the outcome.”]. A tipping point for being resilient is not only healthy forms of coping, but how you are interpreting and perceiving this stressor!

The truth: we have no guarantees. But we live out our daily lives knowing that whatever good has come our way is a matter of grace.

Third, if you are in the habit of having built resistance and navigating stress with resiliency, know that you’re on track for recovery.

How you have handled crisis is how you’ve handled life prior to crisis.

Life Coaching Question: What steps can you take today to build resistance, resilience, and recovery as you respond to stress in the New Year?